How to win at dating like you do work
OK, so this email is designed to get you thinking outside of your comfort zone and into an action plan. And we’re going to do it by thinking of your love life like we do work.
If I was to ask you how you’ve got to where you are in your career right now, correct me if I’m wrong, but you’d probably say things like:
👉 A helluva lot of effort and time
👉 Belief that it was going to work out
👉 Asking for help/ guidance when needed
👉 Taking risks
👉 Quitting jobs that no longer serve them
👉 Looking for promotions
👉 Networking / talking to people
👉 Learning and growth
👉 Following your intuition
👉 A goal and action plan
BUT when it comes to love, we tend to do the opposite…
👀 We believe it should just ‘happen’ so we don’t need to put in time or effort
👀 We carry shame around it, so won’t talk about it
👀 We don’t trust our intuition
👀 We don’t want to risk leaving a situationship, or things like vulnerability
👀 We rarely ask for help
👀 Our beliefs are kind of crap around the subject! We tell ourselves things like ‘it won’t happen for me, or time is running out, or all the good ones are taken’
In fact, when it comes to work, you probably wouldn’t accept a new job that you didn’t like, that was a paycut, and didn’t have any future potential? But we accept crappy partners or situationships, who treat us badly and where we know it’s not going anywhere!
When I’ve asked clients about this, the general consensus is that they feel they can control the work aspect. They feel they have evidence that work will be ok. That they trust their own ability here.
And I, my friend, beg to differ. You can’t control when you get promoted, what jobs come up, company finances for pay rises, the team you go into, the culture of the company. Just as we can’t control who we meet, when we meet them and how it’s going to go.
But you can control how you show up and what you're willing to put in.
SO, I want you to suspend the internal thoughts around dating at the moment and ask yourself:
If I was to approach meeting someone, like I do my career, what would I do?
What is my goal? What would I be looking for?
What would be my non-negotiables and no-gos?
Who would I tell about this and reach out to? Would I ask for introductions/ set ups?
Where could I meet people that would be good for this?
What groups/ events/ societies could I join for networking?
How would I change my approach to dating apps?
How would I show up in day to day life?
Do I have any patterns and blindspots I need to think about?
What kind of thoughts would I have?
What would my energy be like?
Because I bet you’d be pretty fooking fearless!
SO, if you are looking to meet someone in 2024, let’s reframe how we’re approaching this and get strategic about it. Let’s put on our ‘it will all work out’ career hat and give it a sprinkle of fresh energy and magic.
I’d LOVE to see your list and what you come up with, so feel free to ping it on to me.
On a slightly sadder note, the end of August is herewhich means it’s time to remind you about my coaching deadlines due to maternity leave!
1:1 work
The last time I can take on clients for 12 weeks is 5th September (as in our first call has to be that week). So I really do urge you to book a call for next week, if this is something you’re interested in, which you can book here.
I have 5 spots available!
Leading in Love - Group Coaching
This starts on 9th September and is an amazing, live group bootcamp which helps you heal what is keeping you stuck, work on your blindspots and date intentionally, so you can meet someone. You can check it out here and I also offer a free call with this one, which you can book here.
