About Me
Now, you should probably know that I am the least likely person to become a Love & Relationship Coach.
To be truthful, I was an absolute nightmare when it came to my love life. I wasted years either blowing hot and cold and shutting down my emotions, or living through months of anxiety and panic, clinging on to any emotionally unavailable love interest that showed a bit of potential, in order to try and fend off the constant fear of being alone.
Why wasn’t I meeting anyone? Why did it never work out? Would I be alone forever? When would it end? Was I cursed? Would I be the forever single whilst I watched my friends find boyfriends, move in, get engaged, have babies?
As with any situation that needs to change, it took reaching rock bottom to do something about it. Mine just happened to be at a yoga retreat in Ibiza. Sounds glamourous, right? Except it wasn’t. I hated yoga and I felt miserable.
During a coaching talk about body image and self-worth, someone turned to me and said “You seem so happy and confident. What’s your secret?”
And the truth came spilling out.
“I’m not happy. I’m scared I’ll never be happy and I’m not sure if I even know how to be. I don’t even really like myself.”
It was at that moment, as I broke down to a complete stranger, that I realised I didn’t believe I was lovable. I didn’t feel deserving of love, from myself or anyone else. I felt lost. I felt I didn’t know who I was anymore.
On the surface, I was happy. I had a great job, quick promotions, soul-sister friends, an amazing family, and usually had a guy (or two) on the scene. I was a serial dater, the party girl of my group, and always the one with a funny situation-ship story.
In reality, I’d spent years chasing bad relationships in a bid to find happiness. Obsessing over men who couldn’t be bothered to text me back. I yearned to be in a healthy relationship but had no idea where to start. I was addicted to the high drama of unavailable men that deep down I knew weren’t right for me, but felt I needed to prove I could get them, change them. I mean, if you manage to capture something unobtainable, you’ve finally won right? You’re worthy. You’re enough.
As it would never work out, I would continue to cry into my wine glass, wailing to my sister “Why me? Why does it always go wrong? When will I meet someone?”. All while happily ignoring the role I was playing in my own life.
You see, I was the girl who allowed guys to pick me up and drop me. I was the girl waiting in the wings for someone to change, to commit and to decide that I was good enough. I was also the girl who treated the good guy badly and hurt people with my actions. I was also the girl who couldn’t commit and ran from vulnerability. I was the girl obsessed. I was the serial dater. I was the girl over texting, over social media stalking, drunk dialling. I was the girl numbing out of life hoping someone would notice and fix me. I was the girl waiting to be chosen.
I felt like a little girl, lost.
I was stuck in the same cycle, repeating the same patterns, and attracting the same kind of guys, every time wishing it would be different and never doing anything to change it.
After Ibiza, I knew something had to give. So, I called out my own bullsh*t. I got working.
I quit looking for Prince Charming to ride in and save me. I quit waiting for someone else to make me feel good. I quit putting up with half measures. I quit worrying I was ‘too much’ or ‘not enough’. I quit thinking I needed to be fixed. I quit ignoring past trauma that still haunted me.
I found out who I was, and what I wanted my life to be like. I healed. I got brave. And I committed to finding a kind of love that I finally realised I deserved.
And I turned my life around. I went from feeling underserving, second best and desperate to meet someone, to happy, confident and thriving. I became someone I was proud of. Someone I wanted to be around. Someone who respected herself. After all those years I was finally content.
The funny thing was, once I became the love of my own life, within a year I went from serial dater to engaged to the most incredible partner.
And I can show you how to do the same.
Coaching
Since I transformed my own life, I’ve put all my effort into training to become a Love & Relationship Coach. It’s my mission to make sure no woman feels like I did at one point: unlovable, disempowered and a little bit broken.
I’m here to make sure you’re no longer waiting around to be ‘chosen’ or chasing unattainable men to prove that you’re worthy of love. I’m here to stop you obsessing over people who can’t even be bothered to text you back and clinging on to partners out of fear they’re your last chance at happiness. I’m here to tell you to stop worrying, that you don’t need to be fixed. That you’re enough, just as you are.
My unique programme been designed to help you go from feeling underserving, second best and desperate to meet someone, to irresistible, in control, clear on who you’re compatible with, and at peace with the fact that your One is on their way.
So, let’s get started.
Training
Alongside the online courses, therapy, books, coaching and personal experience I’ve gained throughout the years, I’m also a qualified Transformational Life Coach, with a diploma in Transformational Coaching through the Animas School. This diploma is accredited by International Coaching Federation (ICF).
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