Feeling weird about never having had a partner? This blog is for you

So as you’re on my mailing list, you probably already know that I spent most of my 20’s trapped in a cycle of dating app fatigue, or London dating drama. Solely attracted to unavailable men, one nighters and partying, I felt exhausted, burned out and lonely. 

BUT some of you might not know that until my late 20’s, I’d never actually had a boyfriend. (In fact I went from boyfriendless to engaged in a year which was a big fat 180!)

I was the last to lose my V-Plates out of my friends, the last to have a relationship, and I felt like the last to figure my stuff out. I have to be honest, this was something that caused a lot of shame for me! The longer everything went on, the harder it felt and the further away love seemed. 

I don’t know if you relate to this First name / love? I work with a lot of amazing women who also never have had a partner, or might have been single for years, or might feel their ‘uni relationship’ doesn’t count, or they might have had a long toxic relationship which the aftermath caused chaos down the line. Regardless of the situ, it’s the sneaky shame and worry that connects all our experiences. 

But it really doesn’t have to be the case. 

Because regardless of timings, or age, or your relationship ‘status’ I bet every single one of you has fought to get where you are. Has shown so much resilience. Has learned from the stories we want to forget. 

So in order to move through this, we do need to start owning, and sometimes rewriting our stories. Because the past truly doesn’t have to represent the future. 

It was only when I started looking at my history, my patterns, and getting excited for the future did my love life start to shift. 

I’ll be honest, yes, I felt like a loser working on something that seemed to come naturally to others, but we’re not all dealt the same cards. And it turned out to be one helluva exciting journey. 

And this is now what I help my clients do.

I can’t teach you 10 tricks to make someone fall in love with you, or change the way dating apps work, but I can help you find yourself again, get your sparkle back and attract into your life who is meant to be there.

This journey could look like: 

💛 Getting accountable for the role you’re playing ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

💛 Figuring out why you’re attracted to certain people ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

💛 Getting aware of your own crap beliefs around not being good enough

💛 Exploring who you are, the light and the dark ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

💛 Creating more love in your life

💛 Seeing a future where you’re not ‘the single one’

💛 Trusting the universe ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

💛 Deciding you do actually LIKE men/ women and knowing I there are good ones out there

💛 Stopping being judgy and negative and breaking down your own barriersI

💛 Creating space for love ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

💛 Walking away from people who aren’t good for you - past, present and future! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

If you’re up for it, we cover all these things and more in Leading in Love, which is the 10 week live programme. 

I’ve poured all my own lessons, my years of coaching experience and resources into this programme. It’s the one I wish I had when feeling stuck AF! 

I’m in Italy for a week (minus the Aperols 🍹 sadly) so if you want to book but also want to talk it through, sign up, book a call for when I’m back, and if you don’t want to go ahead, I’ll refund you the money! 

Otherwise, as you might know, the last time I can take on 1:1 clients is the 2nd September for 12 weeks, or the 7th October for 6 weeks. So regardless of what support you're looking for, come and have a chat. 

So if you would like to book a no-strings attached call, book yourself in HERE for a discovery call and we can chat through what options might work for you.  

Hope to see you with me on this new chapter!