Why ghosting has NOTHING to with you

Ever gone on an amazing date? They suggested a time and booked a great place. Simple. The conversation flowed. They put you completely at ease. You talked about all the things you had in common and would like to do together. It was natural and flirty and fun. 

You floated round on cloud nine, convinced there would be a follow up text or call waiting for you when home. 

And they never called. 

Or perhaps you’ve even been on a few dates before you noticed them taking longer to reply to messages, and they started to cancel or rearrange dates, with the effort got slowly but surely less and less. You wondered what the hell you’d done wrong - how can someone go from being so keen to so, well, not? 

And sure enough, you slowly faded out. 

Or, perhaps 

You’ve spent weeks talking on a dating app, talking most days and exchanging pics of various pets, places and what you were up to. The conversation might even have turned a leeeeeetle sexual. Until it was time to meet. 

And poof! They’re gone. 

Whatever the scenario it still sucks! It still feels like rejection. 

When someone ghosts us, we often take it as a sign that we’re not good enough. That we’re lacking in some way. 

WRONG. 

There are a billion reasons why people ghost (including people who hate being ghosted themselves) 

Some of them include:

• Their fear of difficult emotions and awkward conversations

• Their emotional immaturity.

• They’re dating more than one person

• They’re going through something

• They got back with an ex

• Or they’re just an arse.

But again, nada to do with you! 

Want the biggest piece of evidence to support this? They always reappear down the line. 

 So when casper creeps back six months later, please don’t take it as an opportunity to ‘prove you’re worthy or enough’ for them. 

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