6 reasons why you’re single that have nothing to do with you!

“Why am I still single?” One of the most commonly asked, and most bloody frustrating questions to ask! 

So with every person who wants to work on changing something about their life, we have to start with a little inventory about what is going on. 

We all have blindspots in certain areas and it can be really fooking hard to figure out what they are, on your tod.  

Sometimes this might be around self-esteem, sometimes it might be around unconscious patterns you’re repeating. Sometimes it might be around attachment styles, or vulnerability, or hyper independence. Sometimes it might be who you are attracted to and why. 

But sometimes we just need to get really practical. As a coach, I don't believe in ignoring or discounting the very real situational factors that can scupper the best made plans. It’s not always about self-love and childhood and healing. 

Sometimes it's just about life.

SO here are 6 factors that could be influencing your success in meeting someone. 

👉The economy. Less surplus money = less to spend on dating, new experiences, travelling, feeling good etc.

👉You work from home. Look, we’re all out and about less, which means there are naturally less opportunities to meet people

👉You live in the middle of nowhere so the pool is smaller or you have to travel to date, which can make it harder

👉You don't have the time or energy. You need emotional and practical space to date, which sometimes isn't feasible with juggling life

👉You’re a parent (whether it’s a dog or child). You most likely have less time, less energy and dating naturally is less of a priority

👉Your friendship group has got smaller, so there might be less movement, new additions and ways to meet people

And before you get excited, no you don’t have permission to use this as an excuse to throw your hands up in the air and never try again. 😜

BECAUSE, as a coach, I also believe in tweaking the circumstances and finding solutions that work for you. 

Part of the growth in becoming the person who can hold space for the incredible relationship you deserve, is making it a priority, whatever that might look like for you. 

SO, for each of the points that are true for you, write down two-three practical solutions that you can commit to tweaking over the next couple of months. 

You can always email me what they are and I’ll keep you accountable! 

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