What you can do today to be in a relationship in six months!
A quick one from me this week, but I wanted to break down some practical action points that you can implement easily (and now), to start making changes in your love life.
There's a whole lotta bad (and complicated) dating advice out there at the moment, so I hope this helps!
👉 Celebrate that you want love rather than hiding it. Tell people you're dating and what you're looking for and get excited about it! If this feels too daunting, you can start by writing down your goals, and then telling a trusted friend. The more we hold shame around this, the further away it feels.
👉 Expand your criteria of what love is going to look and feel like. Be open to different people (looks, backgrounds, ages, location etc) and update your app settings. Also bring in the possibility they might be a slow burner or steady eddy, rather than looking for instant fireworks.
👉 Go on three dates with someone before making a decision. On average it takes three months to get to know someone, so give them more than an hour (unless they're an Andrew Tate fan).
👉 Work on healing your relationship with men/women. Stop calling men ‘trash’ and saying ‘all the good ones are taken’. Instead start noticing the good ones. If things are very deep rooted, a therapist can help here.
👉 Collect evidence that love is all around you and can happen at any time. Save posts on insta, keep a journal, whatever works for you.
👉 Practice receiving love by accepting compliments, letting someone do something nice for you, or asking for help.
👉 Dig deeper into your attachment patterns and blueprint. Good books are Attached, by Dr Amir Levine & Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, by Lindsay Gibson & Becoming The One, by Sheleana Aiyana. Otherwise Mark Groves has great episodes on his podcast about this.
👉 You can join Your Romantic Rewrite, the 4 day challenge, which means you'll dig into your values, get clear on your goals (romantic and otherwise) for 2024, do full inventory of your patterns and create space for love.
👉 You can book your call and chat it all through with me! I'm taking on clients again from the 6th Feb, so have opened up my diary.
Let me know what you're going to carry forward and do THIS week!
