Let's be honest, in the rather superficial amazon prime of the dating world it's easy to forget the basic ingredients of what makes up a great relationship. 

 

It's easy to fixate on what's right or wrong with other people, how many red flags there are, or to make height, job, status etc a dealbreaker. 

 

SO I've got a lil experiment for you over the coming week. This is: 

 

👉 Rather than focusing on the external shiz of who you want to get, slow down and focus on becoming the partner you want to have. 

 

We forget that how we show up, and treat others and ourselves has a direct correlation on the romantic results we get. If we want to meet an amazing partner, we have to work towards becoming the partner who can hold that relationship. 

 

And from what I hear, these qualities are always high on the list… 

 

💛 Great communication

💛 Honesty and integrity

💛 Kindness, and the space to be yourself without judgment 

💛 No games + ghosting 

💛 Commitment & security

💛 Emotional intelligence

 

But if you aren’t living in line with what you want, and acting accordingly,  then you can’t expect it from someone else! So if you’re doing things like…

 

⚠️ Complaining about people on dating apps but judging profiles and also leaving people on read

⚠️ Wanting security but dating people who don’t want a relationship

⚠️ Desiring commitment but not committing to growth, or yourself 

⚠️ Wanting love and to be seen, but you're talking to yourself like you're a piece of sh*t 

⚠️ Needing emotional intelligence but unable to be vulnerable

 

Then you might have a lil thinking to do! 

 

SO, take this as a nudge to look around and get really honest. Write a list of the qualities that are super important to you in a partner and turn it around on yourself.

 

And whilst you might be amazing on the dating front, how are you with yourself, friends, family, strangers and commitments you’ve made?

 

Where could you clean up your behaviour?

 

Try it and see what shifts for you. This is something I frequently check in on and I love doing, even if it’s uncomfortable, because holy crap does it make you grow!